Don’t Miss Out!
By Kari Lewis on November 02, 2017
The other day I headed over to Matthew and Lisa’s house to watch their kids for the morning. When I arrived in their driveway and opened my car door, I could already hear excited shrieks and squeals emanating from the house. As I walked up the sidewalk to their door, I saw three beautiful laughing kids waving at me. The moment I was in the house there were requests to “Look at this, Grandma!” “Read this, Grandma!” Watch me, Grandma!” A few minutes later, as previously planned, Jonathan and Linnea dropped off their kiddos too, so three more excited voices joined the chorus of ”Grandma this.. Grandma that.. Grandma, Grandma, Grandma!”
We colored, looked at books, took potty breaks, built train tracks, rode bikes, changed diapers, had a snack, giggled at jokes, trekked up and down the stairs, etc. etc. etc. We had a great time. Really! But, with six kids, ages six and younger, and just one Grandma…I’m sure you understand that I wasn’t totally disappointed when it was time to walk back down the sidewalk, sink into my comfy car and enjoy a quiet drive home—all alone!
But I wasn’t alone after all on that trip, because as I was driving, the Holy Spirit was bringing memories of raising our kids to my mind. And I was praying for our kids and their wives (and Christian homeschooling families in general), because that day, it wasn’t the memories of fun times I was reliving. Instead, I was remembering in vivid Technicolor what it was like to be in the thick of parenting, homeschooling and life 24/7.
All. The. Time.
I was remembering the times I wasn’t a very good mom. Like the times I gave our kids what I hoped was enough attention to make them think I was truly “there”, while I was internally tapping my foot waiting to get on to the next thing I had to do. Or the times I tried to manipulate games so we would get done more quickly, and I could move on to my next duty. Or the times I told them I would read a book when I got done with whatever I was doing at the moment, and truly intended to read to them, but if they seemed to have forgotten and were playing nicely, I’d “forget” too. (Very sad. And embarrassing to admit in black and white!)
But maybe I’m not the only mom who has done these things?
I know. I get it. You have pressures. You have duties. You have responsibilities. You’re the adult. You’re the Mom. If you don’t do it, who will?
But, that’s just the point!
YOU are the MOM. Anyone can do a lot of the things you do. Some of the things you do may even be able to be left undone if necessary. The point is that no one but YOU can be the MOM! One of your biggest responsibilities or duties (if you want to call it that), as well as one of your biggest blessings or perks to the job of Mom, is that you get to, and need to, build relationships with the children God has given you.
If you find yourself feeling stretched too thin, and relationships are getting the short end of the stick, pray about it! Give all your situations to the Lord, then let the cares and stresses sit on a back shelf for a bit and just BE MOM! I’m almost certain that the world won’t come to a screeching halt if you take time to stop and truly be present in the moment. Look your kids in the eyes, give them a hug, read a book, go for a hike, play a game, make a cup of cocoa and just talk with them…
Don’t miss out on the satisfaction, the joy, and the blessings of enjoying your family!